How to be happy though human / by W. Béran Wolfe.

have married without adequate preparation. Others again are so constituted organically as to preclude a happy marriage. In these individuals an advanced position on the social and occupational fronts is tantamount to the successful solution of the sexual problem. The Concept of “ Distance ” With these norms as a guide, we can take a number of individual cases and draw diagrams of their attack on the problems of life and compute their psychic “ distance ” from the front. We must not lose sight of the fact that time is an element in all cases. Individual development begins with a first attack on the social front. Building up confidence toward one’s mother is usually the first problem that faces the individual. Then come the extension of the social bond to the father, to other members of the family, and finally to playmates and others outside the family group. Work begins in learning to walk, talk, control the excretions, and coordinate the motor activities. Then come the solutions of the problems of school and educa¬ tion and self training. The sexual problem begins with the adjustment to one’s parents, one’s brothers or sisters, and finally to playmates of the opposite sex. With maturity, the occupational problem usually assumes the ascendency. For the reason that the technical education of the average man is often better than his social and sexual education, a very common mistake in the strategy of life is an over-emphasis on business and work, combined with an inadequate attack on the problems of sex and society. The fallacy of this approach is indicated by the misfortunes that attend it during the attack, and the tragedies that are likely to follow after a complete victory has been gained solely on the occupational front. The life of the man or woman who approaches life in terms of a “ drive ” on work is not very happy. The very intensity of his efforts makes enemies of his associates, and his lack of consideration for the feelings and efforts of his