How to be happy though human / by W. Béran Wolfe.

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and self-abasement can be summed up in the words of one of my patients. “ What can you expect of me, Doctor ? I’ve been a sexual sinner since I was six years old ! ” in answer to my question “ Why don’t you get a job and do an honest day’s work ? ” The unconscious malice of all self-abasement is echoed in this patient’s words. The sense of guilt is but one form of this popular character trait whose real purpose and meaning are obvious : the individual who “ wrestles with tempta¬ tion ” avoids all real conflict with the actual problems of existence. The sense of guilt is no excuse for failure, cowardice, or unhappiness, any more than youthful “ sins ” excuse an attitude of passive resistance toward life. Despite the fact that long and esoterically compli¬ cated monographs have been written about the sense of guilt and the desire for punishment—these terms remain no more than scientific synonyms for bad manners and a lack of social cooperation, useful only to those who are too timid to assume the reasonable responsibilities of adult life. The Dynamics of Evasion The description of the foregoing character traits and their analysis as tools which the personality appropriates for the efficient pursuit of its unconscious goal will already have suggested to the reader that all so-called “ bad ” character traits are to be considered either as good tools designed to effect a false goal, or excellent devices for projecting a courageous solution of life’s problems into the indefinite future. This gives us a very good scheme for classifying character traits. We have already sketched the devices which the normal man chooses for the pursuit of the rational goal of fellowship and cooperation in the world’s work. All other character traits must, by exclusion, be devices whereby this normal solution of problems is evaded in one way or another. The normal goal may be evaded by focussing on your own superiority rather than on your contribution to the commonweal. To this end we have such traits as ambition,