How to be happy though human / by W. Béran Wolfe.
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- Publication/creation
- London : George Routledge, 1932.
- Physical description
- xiv, 374 pages ; 22 cm
- Contributors
- Wolfe, W. Béran 1900-1935.
- Notes
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This edition was reprinted in 1933, 1934, 1935, 1937, 1942, 1944, 1945, 1946 and 1948.
Copy 1 Note: 1937 reprint. X158203
- Attribution and usage
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succeeded in giving Mathilda a new and valid self-
confidence after the childhood basis of her jealousy had
been discovered, and new paths to social approval and a
sense of security indicated to her.
The Relation of Jealousy to Love
To be jealous of someone means to possess him, or to
attempt to possess him. Human beings are not chattels,
and can never be possessed. One of the most tragic
fallacies is the belief that one can buy or command the
love or affection of another being. There are fathers who
believe that, simply because they are fathers, their
children must “ love and respect ” them. This is one of
the more vicious ideas that we derive from the patri¬
archal Hebrews, an idea which has caused untold
suffering in the world and uncounted conflicts between
parents and children. There are husbands who believe
that their wives must love them because they are their
husbands, and there are wives who believe that, once
they have married a man, they have solved all their
problems and that love will follow on marriage as the
night follows the day, without their lifting a hand to
earn it.
Men attempt to buy the love of women by giving them
clothes or gifts and are surprised and pained when they
find that these women love someone else. Whenever a
human being is jealous, he tacitly admits that he feels
himself incapable of earning and keeping the love of his
beloved, and must have recourse to the artificial restric¬
tions and circumscriptions of jealousy to counteract any
competition from outside which might show him in a
bad light. Men and women, parents and children, when
they feel inferior, try to buy and to own those they
love, and to keep that ownership by means of the fetters
of jealousy which prevent the beloved that freedom of
movement without which love cannot exist.
It is strange that after all these centuries of living, the
average human being has not yet discovered the meaning
of jealousy. Jealousy is the poison ivy that grows around