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Evasion—Continued “ but ” and “ if”, 39, 44, 99, 193, 239, 256 by hypersensitivity, 149 by make-believe superiorities, 150 “change the subject”, 189 “ I cannot ” substituted for “ I will not ”, 44, 260, 263 neurosis as, 213, 272-84 of normal goal by character traits, 147-50 of problem of love and marriage, 232-3 of work, 230-2 problem of values, 152-3 “ red herring ” principle, 276 “ side-show ” character traits, 148 techniques of, 275-9 “ unless,” 149 Experiences, a result, not a cause, of learning, 169 fitted into a preconceived pattern of life, 171 measured by scheme of appercep¬ tion, 167-8 necessity of selectivity, 167-8 only method of learning from, 172 variety of values, 20 Extraversion, 113 Family, as a cause of mental enslave¬ ment, 226-8 breeding ground of evil traits, 225 disintegrating, 328 fear and inferiority complex dangers in, 54-8 necessity of educating young children outside the, 227-9 real purpose of, 225 relationship as an end, 223-5 relative importance, 218 sometimes the cause of anti-social disintegration, 224 (see also Children and Parents) Fatalism, 193 Fear, 47, 220, 332 as a cause of neuroses, 266 as a result of the emotional attitudes of parents and teachers, 63-7 as evidenced in sex, 59-61 expression of the inferiority com¬ plex, 36 family constellation a possible cause of, 58-61 precludes adequate relations be¬ tween the sexes, 315 results of, 21 Fear—Continued social, economic, and racial deter¬ minants, 61-2 Fetishism, 43, 238, 325 Francis of Assisi, Saint, 254 Freud, Dr. Sigmund, 269-71 (see also Freudian psychoanalysis) Freudian psychoanalysis, 42, 214, 269 assumption of a conflict between the libido and the social ten¬ dencies, 142 dream theories, 180 exaggeration of sexual trauma, 74 theories of art and hobbies as “ sublimations ” of sex, 94 Friendship, art of achieving, 3 3 3-6 dynamics of, 336-9 fear of making contacts, 338 importance of small topics of con¬ versation, 340 made vital and lasting, 342 methods of starting, 339-41 not “ soul catching ”, 337 suspended judgment, an aid to, 338 technique of finding good points in friends, 335 value of gifts, 342-3 Frigidity, 276, 303 Gambling, 255 Genesis, Book of, 256, 265 Genius, as a means of compensation, 81 verges on neurosis, 272 Germany, Thuringian method of “ testing ” a couple who desire to marry, 300 Gifts, fine art of making, 342-3 Goal, 332 a prediction of memories, 178 attaining, 109-11 childhood memories indicate the unconscious, 177-8 delimited by feeling of inferiority, 166 falsity of pleasure and power as, 253-4 fixing of, 17, 109, 136 important in self-sculpture, 6 modification, 19 of childhood, 16 of life, 152 of neurotics, 260, 272 philosophy serving as, 193-5 sense of superiority as a, 150-1 setting of tool for, 109