How to be happy though human / by W. Béran Wolfe.
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love are written daily by adolescent minds for the avid consumption of other adolescent minds. They are engulfed without criticism and without perspective by school-girls and school-boys, who proceed to pattern their love-lives in the romantic tradition unless some friendly and objective adult either explains the facts of life to them verbally, or by example. Many, like the late Isadora Duncan, carry their romanticism to the grave and beyond. What, then, are the real prerequisites for a happy love life, whether before marriage or after ? To the reader who has understood the meaning of the three cardinal sins against love—-ignorance, competition, and romantic infantilism—it is sufficient to answer : avoid these obvious errors, and with the use of a little effort and a modicum of a sense of humour you can make a success of any marriage or any love affair. Vanity, a struggle for prestige, a desire to dominate at the expense of your sexual partner, the inability to identify yourself with your partner’s problems and situations, the desire to be perfect, or right, or superior, will spoil any human rela¬ tions—and their evil effects are most noticeable in the love relation. The love relationship is a creative and artistic activity, as much as living itself. Let only those who have made progress in their own self-sculpture attempt to join forces and essay the creation of new worlds in the cooperation of sexual “ two-ness ”. « Practical Suggestions I he fact that the family, as a patriarchal institution, is in process of disintegration, and the fact that economic factors frequently complicate the proper solution of the love problem, compel us to admit that there is no single ideal solution of the problems of love and marriage. In view of the fact that every individual must solve this problem in the way he finds best, our only counsel must be : know the facts, and cooperate to the best of your ability with the best standards of the social group in which